Coaching is not something one does; rather, it is who one is being. It is not an activity. It is a relationship. And all true coaching comes from a place of integrity, authenticity, and trust on the part of the coach and the one who is being coached. Coaching is not about giving advice, having all the right answers, pretending to be perfect, or fixing the coachee/client. Nor is it about creating an ideal mold into which everyone must fit themselves. There is no one-size-fits-all when it comes to leadership or being human, for that matter.
What I attempt to do in coaching is create a safe space with clear boundaries for leadership breakthroughs to happen by letting go of attachments, being true to oneself, finding one’s own voice, creating opportunities to experiment or try new things, and by being vulnerable; in other words, working toward success (as defined by my client) but allowing for failure. While no one likes to fall short of their goals, I think most of us would agree that the greatest learning and growth takes place when we do. When the coachee has the experience of being fully heard, fully supported, and fully accepted as they are, no matter what, real coaching can occur. And while there are moments that coaching could easily slip into therapy, I am always extremely careful to “name it” as a therapeutic issue when and if it arises, while suggesting they might want to pursue that with a trained psychotherapist.
I have experienced the totality in my career, from great success to major failures. Though I have had the experience of coaching people who are looking for some area of professional self-improvement, those who call on me (whether it is an individual or an institution) are often in trouble or are experiencing a breakdown of one sort or another. I can relate. I have learned that it is not enough to merely “do your work” or even be really good at it. It is not enough to have a high IQ; the EQ also needs continual development. Passion for one’s calling is essential, but so is compassion and empathy for others. Leaders need to be self-aware, honest, and authentic, always open to how others are perceiving them.
I believe what sets me apart from other coaches is that I have both the theoretical and academic knowledge as well thirty five years of practical experience leading organizations. I combine both with a mixture of spiritual teachings in all that I do. My ideal client seeks to make a difference in the world and at the same time desires to transform their leadership.
How it Works
There are more than seven billion people on this planet and no two are identical; that is to say, we never have a “one size fits all” solution for any situation. We begin with a free, no obligation consultation. Afterwards, if we believe I can be of service to you, I send a written proposal that includes a suggested cadence as well as the cost. If that is acceptable, we both sign what I call a brit k’tanah (a small covenant) which clearly states our mutual promises and accountabilities as well as a timeline in which our work will be completed.
While leaders come to me for a variety of needs, most often they are looking for one or more of the following:
What Do I Exist to BE? Finding My Purpose/Personal Mission
Career Transitions (Resume; Cover Letter)
Why is it So Lonely at the Top?
Organizational Politics: The Art of Getting Things Done
Supervision of Staff
Visioning: Imagining the Future and Getting Them There
Becoming a Chief Spiritual Officer
Finding and Using My Authentic Voice